Saturday, May 23, 2009

Here we go again!

I think I'm struggling with this insecure feeling for many years..

Always feel other people are happier than me, and more successful, and better looking (duh!). I don't think I can point out anything good about me. Am a bad wife, I hardly cook (even when I cook, it's just simple meals..other people can cook a storm and their husband love them), I can't seem to produce babies, I sucked in housework..am not a good daughter too, I can't afford to give much to my parents, not as much as other people.

Gosh, I hate comparing myself with others. But I still do it.

Dah, I wanna go and cry. I hate me. :(

17 comments:

wanshana said...

Hey, what's all these?

Never, never, never compare yourself to others, dear. It is SUCH a chore, I tell you - simply because there are SO, SO, SO MANY people out there! Don't waste your time and energy, okay? ;)

But, taking that into perspectives - as much as you feel your life sucks, there are many, many, many people out there who feel that their lives are worse than yours...and they're probably right.

Happiness is a very subjective thing, and different people feel happy and fulfilled for different reasons. Unfortunately, people think you're unhappy simply because your life is different from their "happy" lives.

Yang penting your hubby, your parents, your friends and family are happy, and they know that you ARE a good wife, a good daughter, a good friend.

Give the best of what YOU can, not what people expect you to do. If you have, then you are the best. And you should always be happy.

Nah some tissue. And stop crying. We need to save as much water as we can, okay? :)

Take care, you.

Linda bayam said...

Amy Dear,

I think you need to take a big break from these negative thoughts around you (maybe a week or two with no over-exaggerated blogs or facebook for a start)...

have you ever think that, when you compared yourself with others, there are people who compare themselves to you?!

Other people might have the beauty, brains, children, property, parents, siblings..yada-yada...but they lack of husbands who love them dearly, for what they are...

Just hold on to what you're very certain of, dear...who knows, that's all you need in life to be happy..

aisha said...

akak ni..saya lepuk karang..walaupun saya consider tak cukup umur sgt nak advice akak, tp saya leh lepuk akak.. kan kan? apa ckp mcm nih.. tak baik tau.. seperti komen2 di atas, saya amat bersetuju.. kalu saya buat comparison mcm tu pada diri saya sendiri dgn orang lain.. abis la diri saya ini.. mesti saya akan rasa diri ini sekecik semut tau...dan diri ini akan menjadi seekor semut yang dipijak2 orang.. tp disebabkan saya tak nak menjadik seekor semut, saya berhenti mengomparekan diri saya dgn orang lain, and live happily ever after with my own way.. begitu jugak dgn akak kay..

dillazag said...

Amy,
I just think that once in a while we need to feel bad to be good. Just let it out then suck it up and go on with your life.

Cerita pasal compare-compare ni is neverending.. You are so blessed with such a devoted Zul and lovely family. I am sure many more people as just as envious of your life. Just surround yourself with good, positive energy. Shoo Shoo negative thoughts..

Me hearts you, Ams. Do feel better, soon.. :) ((((((((Amy)))))))

BTW, Kak Shana kena bukak class motivation, lah. hihihihihihi

landen said...

amy, utk hal dunia we should be comparing with someone yg lebih teruk dari kita and utk hal akhirat kita kena compare ngan someone yg lebih hebat dari kita..
syukur ngan apa kita ada..

my 10cent ;)
take care..

konot said...

aku baru la nak type something to make amy feel good.. but i guess landen has put it perfectly!

aku pun terinsaf sekejap...

time kasih landen!

Anonymous said...

salam amy,
i'm yr silent reader. praise to Allah that you have a loving relationship with yr husband and family to start with. that's enough to make alot of people jealous of you.

btw, don't trust what people put on blogs and FB, most of the time it's just a cover up of their own weaknesses in life.

ujie said...

ha ah btol apa anonymous ckp
aku sokong

SiLeNt ReAdEr.. said...

quote from anonymous:

btw, don't trust what people put on blogs and FB, most of the time it's just a cover up of their own weaknesses in life.

sgt percaya pada tu..so baca je blog rakan2 yang mmg anda kenali..

one more

u are not not as bad as u look!!!!

Nomee said...

Ni pokono eh lak ni? Kau jgn ngengado Amy. Many people love you very strong lah ;)

Amy said...

Kak Shana, Linda, Aisha, Kak Dills, Lan, Konot, Ujie, Nomee & Anons - Thank you for such kind words and advise. I guess I needed to let it out. I'm a bit ok now, after so many days, although not 100%. Should be ok soon. I hope my blog is not that 'a cover up of their own weaknesses' type of blog :) coz most of the time, I wrote/type what I felt at that moment, and sometimes revealed too much :P.
Thank you, thank you again for still reading and still commenting. You don't know how much it means to me..sayangg korang!

Zetty said...

spa!

Amy said...

Zets - Yeah, I think I need one badly with extra massage sessions for my legs, they are killing me!

Anak Daddy said...

Hey, you make the best buttercake! Hope that makes you feel better.

Pleaselah, like I said earlier, sapa yang bagitau the world yang depa hebat sangat, sebenarnya depa nak cover kelemahan diri.

We (the naturally cute ladies:) ) are far off better. Period.

Amy said...

A.Teh - That was eons ago ler, dah lama tak buat dah :P.Hehe.

Fina said...

you are you, and we love you for it...you are you..and your hubby loves you for it, you are you...and your parents and siblings love you for it....

screw the others....

chin up babe!!

Amy said...

Thanks Fina..it's just one of the moments yg aku rasa macam ni *hugs*