Wah tajuk kan? Teringat nak buat entry ni sbb berita dtg bertimpa-timpa.
First, a good friend told me about his divorce late last year, ex-wife pun dah kahwin lain. Then yesterday, another good friend, another ex-colleague. He actually told me via FB last October but I missed out his last line in the email, probably coz I read using my handphone. So, while deleting my FB email, I read again his email, wondering why haven't he answered my question previously, rupanya dia dah jawab. He has 2 adorable super geram sons..and he was divorced also last year and his ex-wife dah re-marry. The whole LRT journey back from work yesterday, I kept on thinking, what could have been wrong?
I received another reply from him last night, he was clearly devastated with the whole thing. I kept on having images of his sons, those adorable kids, having to face this situation at such a tender age. And I had this Patt.y Smith song playing in my head while typing this blog entry when my cousin plak chat with me in FB and I found out that she had also divorced last year, and she's living alone with her only daughter. Terdiam aku kejap.
Semua very unexpected. It's not something that you get everyday but yet, it's alarming. I can't say that I understand their situation, but having a brother who was once divorced, I could say that I know what they are feeling at the moment. The frustration, the insecurity, the low self esteem.. and having to raise the kids on your own. Most of the time, the ugly impact of a divorce is the kids. Tu yg sedih.
Sometimes, kita tak bleh cakap ah naper org tu cerai, naper org ni cerai..Maybe lack of communication, maybe org ketiga, maybe issue duit, kerja, maybe takde persefahaman. Ada kan artis tu anak dah 6 pun, alih2 takde persefahaman, how? Jodoh dan maut di tangan Tuhan, yes kita kena usaha but at the same time if it's not meant to be, then it's not meant to be, no matter how painful for us to accept it.
Well, one of them is getting married again this March. Am wishing him all the happiness in the world as he totally deserved the second chance of being happy. Aku pun doa sangat moga kawan2 lain dan cousin aku tabah hadapi dugaan berat ni, moga bertemu jodoh yg lebih baik dan lebih membahagiakan..just don't give up on love yet! I salute your determination in raising your kids alone, moga Tuhan membalas dengan pahala dan rahmatNya. Amin.
I leave you readers with this youtube video of the song 'Sometimes Love Just Ain't Enough'. There's more to marriage institution than just plain love. And I hope I'll go through all the bumpy roads with my B till we grow old together..insyallah. Amin.